Can you buy Happiness via @garyvee

Gary Vaynerchuk is the chairman of VaynerX, a modern-day media and communications holding company and the active CEO of VaynerMedia, a full-service advertising agency servicing Fortune 100 clients across the company’s 4 locations. In addition to VaynerMedia, VaynerX also includes Gallery Media Group, which houses women’s lifestyle brand PureWow and men's lifestyle brand ONE37pm. In addition to running VaynerMedia, Gary also serves as a partner in the athlete representation agency VaynerSports, cannabis-focused branding and marketing agency Green Street and restaurant reservations app Resy. Gary is a board/advisory member of Ad Council and Pencils of Promise, and is a longtime Well Member of Charity:Water. Gary is a highly sought after public speaker, a 5-time New York Times bestselling author, as well as a prolific angel investor with early investments in companies such as Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Venmo, and Uber. Gary is currently the subject of DailyVee, an online documentary series highlighting what it’s like to be a CEO and public figure in today’s digital world, as well the host of The GaryVee Audio Experience, a top 100 global podcast, and host of #AskGaryVee, a business and advice Q&A show which can be found on both YouTube and Facebook. Gary also appeared as judge in Apple’s first original series “Planet of the Apps” alongside Gwyneth Paltrow, Jessica Alba and Will.i.am.

"Your BRAIN Doesn't CARE About HAPPINESS!" | Marisa Peer (@MarisaPeer)

More about Marisa Peer. She struggled with an eating disorder for 20 years. She has spent nearly three decades treating a client list that includes CEOs and Olympic athletes. She's a Therapist & Pioneering Hypnotherapist Trainer. In addition to being a national magazine columnist, she has appeared on major media outlets. She's a best-selling author of four books. She's a highly sought-after speaker. She has appeared on countless television programs and news channels. She's listed in the Tatler guide to Britain’s 250 Best Doctors.

What Is Happiness? - An Extremely Advanced Definition Of Happiness VIA @LeoGura1

What Is Happiness - If you come to accept and live this definition of happiness you can permanently end all suffering, forever!

Video Summary: At a deep level, happiness is an elusive state that few actually achieve. What we typically mistake for happiness is actually just excitement as a result of external stimuli. There's certainly no shortage of stimuli in our world today. We have literally become addicted to the elevated mood we get from daring feats, exceptional food, an absorbing movie, or cruising the internet. When that thrill is over, we are already hungering for the next. Our ego encourages us to stay on this unending roller coaster ride of highs and lows, telling us that's just the nature of life. In truth, we've become creators of the drama in our life on which we're now hooked. Devoid of stimulation, our body goes into withdrawal much like that of an addict. Our minds have grown lazy with all the easy thrills, and we've distorted the arc of our life with all these cheap diversions. Unfortunately, true happiness is an inside job. To find it, we must first unplug and seek it. Meditation and deep contemplation will shrink the ego's influence so that we can find inner peace.

The Japanese Formula For Happiness - Ikigai #Happy

Everyone wants to be happy, but it seems like such an unobtainable goal. Should we focus on making money? Should we focus on pursuing our passions? Or should we just become a monk in the mountains. Luckily for us, the Japanese have already cracked the code. They have a formula for happiness called Ikigai.

How To Connect With Your Inner Happiness And Feel Great For The Rest Of Your Life

The only place to find true happiness is within yourself. The reason why there are so many unhappy people is because most people try to find happiness outside themselves and they never look within.

Happiness is always with you and you can access it anytime – even if you are deeply depressed. However, if you keep looking in the wrong direction you simply won’t be able to feel and experience happiness in your life.

Acquiring wealth, prestige, power, fame… may be exciting the moment you get those things, but it is surely not a recipe to happiness. You fight and struggle for years to get your dream villa and once you have it, you realize that life isn’t much different than it was before.

So, was it really worth, wasting all those years fighting and struggling just for a short moment of excitement?

On the other hand, if you follow your heart and do what you love, you will feel great every day and you will be connected constantly with the happiness within you. On top of that you may acquire wealth, fame… and all sorts of other little gifts at the same time without really making any particular effort.

You are already happy, fulfilled, abundant… within, you may just not be able to experience it, because all sorts of negative thoughts and beliefs may block the doorway to your inner treasures.

What can you do to push away those clouds of negative thoughts and beliefs in order to access your inner happiness?

Calm down, relax and let go. Let go of everything for a moment – your past, what needs to be done today, what may happen tomorrow… dive within and disconnect from your mind for a moment.

Once you let go, you will suddenly feel it – a glimpse of happiness, a deep inner peace, a sudden strength you never experienced before…

That’s Who You Really Are: Happiness, Love, Peace, Freedom… Anything Else You May Think About Yourself Is A Mind Created Illusion. An Illusion You Have Started Taking For Real And Therefore Became Reflected In Your Outer Experiences And Circumstances.

Take a few moments every now and then to go within and become aware of your true nature. Close your eyes, calm your mind and dive within. Simply observe and BE. Don’t expect anything in particular and don’t judge whatever might or might not happen.

The Easiest Way To Experience Your True Nature – Happiness, Peace, Love, Fulfillment… – Is In Deep Silence, When Your Mind Is Absolutely Still.

It is not complicated, but it will need some practice to calm your mind. Every day, take a few minutes and go within. Make it a daily routine, even if it is difficult sometimes and even if you have the impression that nothing special is happening.

All you’ve ever been looking for in life is already within you and that’s also the only place where you can find it. It’s impossible to fulfill your deepest yearnings on the outside.

Once You Connect With Your True Nature Within, Abundance, Love, Fulfillment… Will Also Manifest In Your Material World, Because Your Outer Circumstances And Experiences Are Only A Reflection Of Your Inner State Of Being.

A long as you are not aware of your “inner happiness”, accumulating material things, titles, honors… won’t make you happy. Even after you have done all the hard work and accomplished whatever you desired, you will still feel more or less the same. For someone on the outside it may look like your life has changed completely, but to you it won’t really feel that different.

Once again, make it a habit and go within, into deep silence for at least a few minutes every day. Just watch and observe without spinning your mind, without judging and reflecting – simply BE.

Within, in deep silence you will find whatever you have been longing for and even much more.

Source: https://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/how-to-connect-with-your-inner-happiness-and-feel-great-for-the-rest-of-your-life

Ten Steps Toward Happiness

1. FORGIVE
Forgiveness is not a gift you give to others, it is a gift you give to yourself. Work on letting go of past hurts so that you can live a happier and more fulfilling life. Harboring animosity toward someone else does not help you get even with the other person, it only harms you. It wastes your time and energy that you could devote to something more beneficial in your life. I know it doesn’t seem right for the person who was hurt to have to do the additional work of forgiving and letting go, but would you rather be self righteous or would you rather be happy? The choice is up to you. Always remember to forgive yourself too.

2. ACCEPT YOURSELF

Learn to accept and love yourself just as you are. Accept yourself with all of your good qualities and your faults. Your worth isn’t determined by how many times you have succeeded or failed or by how much money you have. Nor is it determined by who you know, what you do or what you look like. Your value to the world is determined by what is in your heart. Remember that you are perfect just the way you are. There is nothing else you need to do or be in order to be worthy of love. 

3. HELP OTHERS

If you want the shortcut to happiness, here it is! You can help anyone you wish, just pick something to do that gives you joy and comes from your heart. Whether you choose to help children in hospitals, homeless animals, the elderly, the poor, the sick, or wildlife doesn’t matter - whatever is closest to your heart is fine. Even if you aren’t ready yet to commit to a major cause, just give out kindness wherever you see it is needed. Giving out smiles and compliments is not only a great way to start, but a wonderful habit to get into. Kindness costs nothing and can bring you a great deal of joy. If you see someone who seems a bit down, just give them a big smile. That can make more of a difference in a person’s day than you can imagine. Remember that your actions and your words should always come from your heart.



4. STOP WORRYING

Worry takes you away from the present moment and strips you of your energy. I can’t tell you how many years of my life I lost being caught up in worry. I remember being so absorbed in possibilities of future events that I could not even feel anything in the present moment. I lived for the weekends, but could not enjoy them once I got there and seemingly wonderful events were always tainted by that ever present feeling of dread. I couldn’t even relax on vacation. Did all that worrying achieve anything? Nope! Did any of the things I worried about ever come to pass? Only in my mind, I lived them over and over again and experienced that torture on a constant basis. Don’t do that to yourself. Worrying about something will NEVER do anything to solve any problem. Worrying just forces you to repeatedly experience horrible things that may or may not even occur. Let it go! Even if the event does come to pass, it is better to only experience it once than several times, and usually the imagined events are far worse than anything reality would ever throw your way. Make a conscious choice to make every moment of your life count. Live in the present, enjoy the people around you and give 100 with them. When you are in a conversation, you are there with the person you are speaking to and not off somewhere else. When you visit a new place, you really drink it all in and experience it. 

Enjoy each experience fully and experience everything fully without thinking about what needs to get done or what the future holds. 

6. FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE

Stop paying attention to depressing things and focus instead on happiness. I stopped watching the news a long time ago and usually will just pop in a funny movie so I can control the content of what I am seeing. My internet homepage is customized with what I want to see and nothing more (this is where I get my weather updates for those of you who are wondering). It isn’t that I am avoiding reality, I just know that there is no use in seeing things that stress me out or make me sad. That doesn’t do anything to improve the situation and it just strips me of energy I could put to better use. 

7. MEDITATE 

Meditation helps you to slow down and look within. Take a few minutes each day and focus on your breath. Feel yourself breathing in and out. If thoughts come into your mind just release them with your breath as you breathe out. This is a great tool for learning to be present and a great way to discover the things that are bothering you so you can release them. As things come up, just let them go as you breathe out. As you think of things you need to do just let those go as well. Meditation is your me time, that little space during the day that is just for you.

8. EXERCISE

You don’t have to be a marathon runner to benefit from exercise, I certainly am not. What I am saying here is for you to just not be a lump on the couch. Get up and go take your dog for a nice walk. Play with your children. Do some yoga. Even clean the house. It doesn’t have to be much, just get moving! 

I will pair this one with eat healthy food, obviously!

9. LAUGH

Laughter is important - it relaxes you and triggers reactions in the body that are beneficial to your health and happiness! Do things every day to make yourself laugh. Watch funny movies. Watch your kids or pets play, or better yet, play with them. Read funny books. Talk to funny people. Do things to make others laugh and laugh along with them. Laugh at yourself. Laugh, laugh, laugh! 

10. LOVE

Love is the essence of who we are and why we are here. Love is the source of life and the farther you are from it the less energy and drive you will have to make positive things happen. Love more and you can become more. Love freely, deeply and fully. Love everyone around you including yourself. Remember that the more you give, the more you will receive in return. Live your life from love and happiness will follow you wherever you go. 



Disclaimer: this article is intended for inspirational purposes only and the techniques and ideas described herein are not to be used as a substitute for professional medical or psychological treatment or without prior consultation with, approval of, and under the supervision of your physician or therapist. Application of the information, techniques and ideas in this article is at the sole risk and discretion of the reader.



 Melissa Marcy

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5 Ways To Stay Positive When Miserable People Are All Around You

by Kari Farmer

Trying to be positive and happy around miserable people can be a challenge that sometimes deserves an award just for being there. 

Like the day you walk into work actually excited about it and feeling good until your coworkers begin talking about how they work too hard for too little and none of you are ever going to get a raise and that they are pretty sure you will all be let go soon without warning. 

Or when you have that very exciting and happy news to tell your close family members or friends and once you tell them, expecting joy and happiness from them, they only question your thought process and make you feel bad for every sharing your news in the first place.

So the next time you encounter an individual or a group of miserable and negative people try these tricks to help you maintain your positive outlook.

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1. Hold on to your happy feeling – Remember what you were feeling so good about in the first place or even draw from other things that make you feel good. Really feel the happiness that comes from those thoughts and no one will be able to pop your bubble of positivity that is surrounding you.

2. Appreciate it and turn away– Acknowledge the fact that you have identified their negativity. That act alone means that you can separate between being negative and being positive.

Then pivot away from that energy and realize that you are doing something good for yourself, which is not letting in the negative. 

3. Turn their negativity into your positivity – Have a sense of humor about it all. Try to cheer them up and be willing to laugh at yourself when you fail. See their negativity for the silliness it is and if you can show them how silly their worries really are than be happy that you were able to show them that.

4. Feel good that you can see more positive in their lives than they can – The very fact that you can recognize their negatives when they can not, puts you into a different energy vibration all together. 

This helps you to see how awesome your positive outlook is and how much better you feel about your life than they do. Relish the feeling of happiness you get and remember the empty feeling of negativity that they have which comes with their outlook.

5. Stop it in its tracks – If you have to be in the situation and hang out with someone who is being miserable then do not let the parade of negativity continue. 

Let them know that you have a different outlook on the subject they are talking about. You can try to tell them your view point and how what they are talking about is not as bad as it seems but if they do not want to see any good in it, believe me they wont, and it will just heat up their point of view. So tell them bluntly that you would rather talk about something else or nothing at all if they continue with their rant. In most cases this should work and may even take them out of their negativity long enough to help them feel good.

Source:  http://www.articlebiz.com/article/564224-1-5-ways-to-stay-positive-when-miserable-people-are-all-around-you/

This is why trying to be happy actually will backfire.

By: Rasmus Persson

This is why trying to be happy actually will backfire.
The materialistic search for happiness

In June of 1997. A man named Billie Jarrell walked into the local food store. He wanted to buy a lottery ticket. Jarrell was a deeply religious man, he and his family lived just outside Houston, Texas. He worked as a shelf stacker at Home depot and barely had enough to provide for his wife Barbara and his three children.

The ticket he bought seemed to be the big pay off, after a long life of faith and sacrifice. He finally arrived in Austin to receive the full winning prize of 1.3 million dollars.

Billie then bought himself a ranch and horses. He bought homes for his children and donated money to the church, all while indulging himself in the everyday luxuries of being a millionaire. Two years later Billie locked himself in the bedroom, put a shotgun to his chest and pulled the trigger.

A close friend to Jarrell later claimed that winning the lottery was the worst thing that ever happened to him.

Happiness is not about material things.
Our appetite for wealth and material goods is driven by our own inner discontent. We are continuously looking to feel better, more happy and a lot of us are convinced that we can buy our way to happiness. That wealth is the path to permanent fulfilment and well-being.

We still measure ‘success’ in terms of the quality and price of the material things we posses. Or in how much money we make.

Commercial ads shows us how buying this or that will "make us happy".

Our mad materialism would make sense if there was any evidence or proof that happiness will come as an effect.

Fact is that, there is no correlation between material things and happiness or between a fat paycheck and a happy mood. The only exception is in cases of real poverty, when an extra income does relieve suffering and bring security. But once our basic needs are satisfied, our level of income makes little to no difference on our level of happiness.

Recent research has shown, for example that extremely rich people such as billionaires are not happier than average people, and suffer from higher rates of depression.

The problem with materialism is two things.
Too much
Too little
We can debate all day about which is worse.

What I do know is that we all suffer from one or the other. Either we are in the pursuit of more, finer or better or we become numb from the effects of even having.

Very rarely are we ever satisfied with what we got. Because it could always be better right? A new car would make you feel better?

I mean it certainly would, at least in the initial process. But that joy would then fade and another desire will rise to the surface.

Maybe you need a new house as well? Or a new tv?

It goes on and on.

Until there is no point, because you realise that material things doesn’t replace a meaning or a sence of purpose in life. The things you buy only offer a temporary relief and that you are no happier than when you first started.

When you have too much and still feel like crap. You become depressed.

So, if material things, culture, gender and income aren’t reliable predictors of our happiness, what is?

What is happiness
Since it is on everyone’s lips. I want to speak from my point of view.

Happiness is not something we become or finally achieve.

I mean, if happiness was as simple as contracting a set of facial muscles. We would all be happy, all the time.

Sadly, that is not the case.

Most of our assumptions about happiness are likely wrong. For one, psychologists have found that we’re terrible at perceiving our own happiness and estimating what will or will not make us happy.

In fact we rarely ever notice happiness while we are experiencing it. As cynical as it might sound we most often notice a lack of it once it is gone.

So, what is the biggest determination for happiness?

As you already know, the answer for this question is not how famous we are, how successful we are, how beautiful or how much money we make.

It’s not our 64 inch flat screen LCD, or a new Porsche Carrera or anything like that. More than anything else happiness lies within ourself and being the best version of ourself.

When you feel like you are doing something extremely good, when you have done an amazing job, when you surpassed the odds or when you are doing something that you enjoy. Those moments are true happiness, at least they are to me.

Because think about it, happiness is a feeling, just like being angry or being sad is a feeling.

Have you ever stopped to think about how you can become angry?

When you are angry you don’t stop to think about it, you don’t suddenly realise "Hell, i´m angry right now". No, you are out for blood. You are just angry, just like sometimes when you are just happy. You don’t stop to think about it, you just are.




Imagine trying to be angry, just like many of us are trying to be happy. I sure as hell would like to see that.

Although, I can tell you, it doesn’t work. We can’t manipulate our feelings. However we can do things we enjoy, spend time with people we like and achieve things we didn’t think was possible. In that way I believe we all will feel more happiness.

Thank you so much for reading.

I hope that you found this piece insightful, maybe even helpful. I’m a new writer and I would appreciate any support if you could give me a clap or two or even better, write me a comment, I would love to read your thoughts.


Source:  http://www.articlebiz.com/article/1051643779-1-this-is-why-trying-to-be-happy-actually-will-backfire/

7 Ways to Maximize Misery

7 Ways to Maximize Misery

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